Family Team News
Wednesday, January 29, 2014
Monday, January 27, 2014
Early Intervention
Pablo
January is National Birth Defects Prevention Month. The CDC wants you to know that it is important to remember that babies with birth defects who survive their first year of life can have lifelong challenges, such as problems with infections, physical movement, learning, and speech. Early intervention services are vital to improving outcomes for these babies.
January is National Birth Defects Prevention Month. The CDC wants you to know that it is important to remember that babies with birth defects who survive their first year of life can have lifelong challenges, such as problems with infections, physical movement, learning, and speech. Early intervention services are vital to improving outcomes for these babies.
Pablo was born with cleft lip and
cleft palate. Pablo’s mother, Belen, tells of all the services he’s needed,
saying, “Many people believe that kids like Pablo only need plastic surgeries
to be okay. Depending on the severity of the cleft, these kids see other
specialists too. In Pablo’s case, we started with an occupational therapist and
a speech therapist (who he still sees weekly). We also meet with a speech
pathologist regularly as well as an ear, nose, and throat doctor, a dentist, an
orthodontist, and a plastic surgeon.” Despite everything Pablo has been
through, Belen says, “I know that one day he will be a wonderful role model for
other kids with cleft lip and palate. And I love watching him grow and
foreseeing the man he will become.”
Ian
Ian was born with a condition called
gastroschisis, a birth defect where his intestines stick outside of his body
through an opening beside the belly button. He had a number of problems as a
result of his condition and had to spend a lot of time in the hospital
undergoing many different procedures. His mom, Jessica, describes his continued
needs, saying, “Ian receives special services for speech and development
because of his long term hospitalizations.” Early intervention can really help
these children thrive. Jessica says of her son, “He loves school, his dance
club, and his friends. Despite everything he has been through, he continues to
endure with a smile—he is a true Warrior!”
Early intervention services help
children from birth to 3 years old (36 months) learn important skills. Services
include therapy to help the child talk, walk, and interact with others. No
single treatment or intervention is the answer for every child or family. Good
intervention plans will include close monitoring, follow-ups and any changes
needed along the way. It is important to talk to your child’s doctor as soon as
possible if you think your child needs help. Even if your child has not been
diagnosed with a specific condition, he or she may be eligible for early
intervention treatment services. The Individuals with Disabilities Education
Act (IDEA) says that children under the age of 3 years (36 months) who are at
risk of having developmental delays may be eligible for services. These
services are provided through an early intervention system in your state.
Through this system, you can ask for an evaluation. While early intervention is
extremely important, intervention at any age can be helpful.
Learn more about early intervention
Learn more about early intervention
Written By: Cynthia A. Moore, M.D.,
Ph.D. Director
Division of Birth Defects and Developmental Disabilities
National Center on Birth Defects and Developmental Disabilities
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
Division of Birth Defects and Developmental Disabilities
National Center on Birth Defects and Developmental Disabilities
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
Have questions? Send them to AskUs@marchofdimes.com
Tags: birth defects, early intervention
Wednesday, January 22, 2014
Birth defects
In recognition of National Birth
Defects Prevention Month, here are 10 things you need to know about birth
defects from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, CDC.
1. Birth defects are common.
Birth defects affect 1 in 33 babies in the United States every year. For many babies born with a birth defect, there is no family history of the condition.
1. Birth defects are common.
Birth defects affect 1 in 33 babies in the United States every year. For many babies born with a birth defect, there is no family history of the condition.
2. Birth defects are costly and can
greatly affect the finances not only of the families involved, but of everyone.
In the United States, birth defects have accounted for over 139,000 hospital stays during a single year, resulting in $2.6 billion in hospital costs. Families and the government share the burden of these costs. Additional costs due to lost wages or occupational limitations can affect families as well.
In the United States, birth defects have accounted for over 139,000 hospital stays during a single year, resulting in $2.6 billion in hospital costs. Families and the government share the burden of these costs. Additional costs due to lost wages or occupational limitations can affect families as well.
3. Birth defects are critical
conditions.
Birth defects can be very serious, even life-threatening. About 1 in every 5 deaths of babies before their first birthday is caused by birth defects in the United States. Babies with birth defects who survive their first year of life can have lifelong challenges, such as problems with infections, physical movement, learning, and speech.
Birth defects can be very serious, even life-threatening. About 1 in every 5 deaths of babies before their first birthday is caused by birth defects in the United States. Babies with birth defects who survive their first year of life can have lifelong challenges, such as problems with infections, physical movement, learning, and speech.
4. Women should take folic acid
during their teens and throughout their lives to help prevent birth defects.
Because half of all pregnancies in the United States are not planned, all women who can become pregnant should get 400 micrograms of folic acid every day, either by taking a vitamin each day or eating a healthy diet. Folic acid helps a baby’s brain and spine develop very early in the first month of pregnancy when a woman might not know she is pregnant.
Because half of all pregnancies in the United States are not planned, all women who can become pregnant should get 400 micrograms of folic acid every day, either by taking a vitamin each day or eating a healthy diet. Folic acid helps a baby’s brain and spine develop very early in the first month of pregnancy when a woman might not know she is pregnant.
5. Many birth defects are diagnosed
after a baby leaves the hospital.
Many birth defects are not found immediately at birth, but most are found within the first year of life. A birth defect can affect how the body looks, how it works, or both. Some birth defects like cleft lip or spina bifida are easy to see. Others, like heart defects, are found using special tests, such as x-rays or echocardiography.
Many birth defects are not found immediately at birth, but most are found within the first year of life. A birth defect can affect how the body looks, how it works, or both. Some birth defects like cleft lip or spina bifida are easy to see. Others, like heart defects, are found using special tests, such as x-rays or echocardiography.
6. Birth defects can be diagnosed
before birth.
Tests like an ultrasound and amniocentesis can detect some birth defects such as spina bifida, heart defects, or Down syndrome before a baby is born. Prenatal care and screening are important because early diagnosis allows families to make decisions and plan for the future.
Tests like an ultrasound and amniocentesis can detect some birth defects such as spina bifida, heart defects, or Down syndrome before a baby is born. Prenatal care and screening are important because early diagnosis allows families to make decisions and plan for the future.
7. Birth defects can be caused by
many different things, not just genetics.
Most birth defects are thought to be caused by a complex mix of factors. These factors include our genes, our behaviors, and things in the environment. For some birth defects, we know the cause. But for most, we don’t. Use of cigarettes, alcohol, and other drugs; taking certain medicines; and exposure to chemicals and infectious diseases during pregnancy have been linked to birth defects. Researchers are studying the role of these factors, as well as genetics, as causes of birth defects.
Most birth defects are thought to be caused by a complex mix of factors. These factors include our genes, our behaviors, and things in the environment. For some birth defects, we know the cause. But for most, we don’t. Use of cigarettes, alcohol, and other drugs; taking certain medicines; and exposure to chemicals and infectious diseases during pregnancy have been linked to birth defects. Researchers are studying the role of these factors, as well as genetics, as causes of birth defects.
8. Some birth defects can be
prevented.
A woman can take some important steps before and during pregnancy to help prevent birth defects. She can take folic acid; have regular medical checkups; make sure medical conditions, such as diabetes, are under control; have tests for infectious diseases and get necessary vaccinations; and not use cigarettes, alcohol, or other drugs.
A woman can take some important steps before and during pregnancy to help prevent birth defects. She can take folic acid; have regular medical checkups; make sure medical conditions, such as diabetes, are under control; have tests for infectious diseases and get necessary vaccinations; and not use cigarettes, alcohol, or other drugs.
9. There is no guaranteed safe
amount of alcohol or safe time to drink during pregnancy.
Fetal alcohol spectrum disorders (FASDs) are a group of conditions that can occur in a person whose mother drank alcohol during pregnancy. These effects can include physical problems and problems with behavior and learning which can last a lifetime. There is no known safe amount, no safe time, and no safe type of alcohol to drink during pregnancy. FASDs are 100% preventable if a woman does not drink alcohol while pregnant.
Fetal alcohol spectrum disorders (FASDs) are a group of conditions that can occur in a person whose mother drank alcohol during pregnancy. These effects can include physical problems and problems with behavior and learning which can last a lifetime. There is no known safe amount, no safe time, and no safe type of alcohol to drink during pregnancy. FASDs are 100% preventable if a woman does not drink alcohol while pregnant.
10. An unborn child is not always
protected from the outside world.
The placenta, which attaches a baby to the mother, is not a strong barrier. When a mother uses cigarettes, alcohol, or other drugs, or is exposed to infectious diseases, her baby is exposed also. Healthy habits like taking folic acid daily and eating nutritious foods can help ensure that a child has the best chance to be born healthy.
For more information: www.cdc.gov/birthdefects.
The placenta, which attaches a baby to the mother, is not a strong barrier. When a mother uses cigarettes, alcohol, or other drugs, or is exposed to infectious diseases, her baby is exposed also. Healthy habits like taking folic acid daily and eating nutritious foods can help ensure that a child has the best chance to be born healthy.
For more information: www.cdc.gov/birthdefects.
Written By: Cynthia A. Moore, M.D.,
Ph.D. Director
Division of Birth Defects and Developmental Disabilities
National Center on Birth Defects and Developmental Disabilities
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
Division of Birth Defects and Developmental Disabilities
National Center on Birth Defects and Developmental Disabilities
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
Tags: Baby,
birth defect, cleft lip, Down Syndrome, folic acid, genetic disorder, heart defect, neural tube defect, Pregnancy, prenatal test, spina bifida
Sleep during pregnancy
Almost all pregnant women have sleep
problems at some point. Nausea, difficulty finding a comfortable position,
having to get up umpteen times to pee, etc. all contribute to problems in
Slumberland. Here are a few positioning tips:
Avoid sleeping flat on your back.
• This position puts the full weight of your uterus on your back and on the major vein that carries blood between your lower body and heart.
• Sleeping on your back can increase your chances of getting backaches. It can also aggravate digestive problems, heartburn and hemorrhoids.
• Try to get used to sleeping on your side, particularly on your left side. This position can improve your circulation and help reduce swelling in your feet.
Use pillows.
• Tuck one pillow between your legs.
• Use more pillows to support your back and abdomen.
• If you suffer from shortness of breath or heartburn, use pillows to lift up your upper body.
Avoid sleeping flat on your back.
• This position puts the full weight of your uterus on your back and on the major vein that carries blood between your lower body and heart.
• Sleeping on your back can increase your chances of getting backaches. It can also aggravate digestive problems, heartburn and hemorrhoids.
• Try to get used to sleeping on your side, particularly on your left side. This position can improve your circulation and help reduce swelling in your feet.
Use pillows.
• Tuck one pillow between your legs.
• Use more pillows to support your back and abdomen.
• If you suffer from shortness of breath or heartburn, use pillows to lift up your upper body.
For more tips on getting through the
night, or nap, read our information on sleeping problems.
Tags: Pregnancy, pregnant woman, sleep,
sleeping problems
Monday, January 20, 2014
On bedrest? Here are ways to combat boredom
If you’re pregnant and on bedrest,
for all or much of your day, you are not alone. What can you do to still
feel productive and connected to the world during this time?Here are some
suggestions:
Let things that don’t matter… go!
(or get some pixie dust)
It is next to impossible to have
your house run as well as if you were not on bedrest… unless of course you have
a Fairy Godmother. But, in the absence of a magic wand or pixie dust,
lower your expectations on how clean or orderly your home will be at the
moment. Then you won’t stress about what is not done. In other words, cut
yourself a break when it comes to how you usually get things done. You
are giving yourself time off. Think of it as “forced relaxation.” Once
your baby is here, these moments will be few and far between.
Misery loves company and virtual
hugs
Log on to Share Your Story, the
March of Dimes’ online community. There is a thread specifically for pregnant
ladies on bedrest. Just “talking” with other women in the same situation will
be supportive and comforting. Get your virtual hugs on a daily basis here!
Hello out there!…Stay in touch
A laptop can be a lifesaver. Now is
a great time to try and stay in touch with friends whose friendships often fade
due to lack of correspondence. Contact every friend that you have who lives out
of state or out of the country. Once the baby arrives, keeping up with friends
will be harder to do, so getting a jump on it now could be helpful. Then take
the next step and put your address book on your computer to create labels for
when you mail invitations, baby announcements or holiday cards.
Learn mini moves
Muscles become weak and atrophy
(break down) when your body doesn’t move around. It happens very quickly. Ask
your doctor if you can have a physical therapist visit you at home and give you
some light exercises to do while you are in bed. No double leg lifts,
sit-ups or crunches please. Isometric exercises (where you tighten and release
your muscles) may be just what you need. These minimal movements will help to
keep some of your muscles from losing strength. Also, soft, gentle stretches
and ankle rolls (moving your toes around in circles) will help with leg
circulation and swelling. But, don’t take on any movements or exercises without
your doc’s nod of approval first. And, remember, once your baby is here, you
can gradually get back to your pre-pregnancy strength and body (after your doc
gives you the go-ahead).
Work on your recipe collection
If you cut and clip recipes from
magazines and have them stuffed into a drawer to organize “one day,” this may
be just the right time. You can create a file on your computer and then have
someone scan the recipes for you to upload. Then, organize your computer file
by food group so you can easily find a recipe when you want it.
Update the baby book
If you have other children and still
have not organized their baby books, this could provide you with the
disciplined time to get it done. Keep markers, scissors, glue, tape and stapler
on your night table and chip away at updating the book a little at a time.
You’ll be so glad to have this keepsake to remember every precious milestone
and moment.
Although research has not proved
that bedrest is effective, it is still a common method of treatment for
cervical insufficiency or other pregnancy problems. Many doctors recommend
bedrest for conditions like high blood pressure, bleeding or carrying multiples
that increase their risk of going into preterm labor. Whatever the reason for
your bedrest, hopefully, your bed will become your new command central and your
projects will help the time to fly by quickly.
What has worked for you? We’d
love to have you share your survival strategies.
Friday, January 17, 2014
Folic acid helps prevent neural tube defects
Today’s guest post is from the CDC’s National Center on Birth Defects and Developmental Disabilities.
Folic acid is a B vitamin. If a woman consumes the recommended amount of folic acid before and during early pregnancy, it can help prevent some major birth defects of the baby’s brain (known as anencephaly) and spine (known as spina bifida). Anencephaly is a serious birth defect in which parts of a baby’s brain and skull do not form correctly. Babies born with anencephaly cannot survive. Spina bifida is a serious birth defect in which a baby’s spine does not develop correctly, and can result in some severe physical disabilities. All women, but especially those who want to become pregnant, need 400 micrograms (mcg) of folic acid every day.
Do I need folic acid?
Yes! Every woman needs to get enough folic acid each day, even if she does not plan to become pregnant. This is because our bodies make new cells every day—blood, skin, hair, nails and others. Folic acid is needed to make these new cells. Start a healthy habit today and get 400 mcg of folic acid every day.
Why can’t I wait until I’m pregnant to start taking folic acid?
Birth defects of the brain and spine (anencephaly and spina bifida) happen in the first few weeks of pregnancy, often before a woman finds out she’s pregnant. Also, half of all pregnancies in the United States are unplanned. These are two reasons why it is important for all women who can get pregnant to be sure to get 400 mcg of folic acid every day, even if they aren’t planning a pregnancy any time soon. By the time a woman realizes she’s pregnant, it might be too late to prevent these birth defects. Starting today is the best option!
How do I get folic acid?
An easy way to be sure you’re getting enough folic acid is to take a daily multivitamin with folic acid in it. Most multivitamins have all the folic acid you need. If you get an upset stomach from taking a multivitamin, try taking it with meals or just before bed. If you have trouble taking pills, you can try a multivitamin that is gummy or chewable. Also be sure to take it with a full glass of water.
Folic acid has been added to foods such as enriched breads, pastas, rice and cereals. Check the Nutrition Facts label on the food packaging. A serving of some cereals has 100% of the folic acid that you need each day.
In addition to getting 400 mcg of folic acid from supplements and fortified foods, you can eat a diet rich in folate. You can get food folate from beans, peas and lentils, oranges and orange juice, asparagus and broccoli, and dark leafy green vegetables such as spinach, and mustard greens.
For More Information
CDC’s Folic Acid HomepageBirth Defects COUNT
Spina Bifida Overview
Tags: anencephaly, B vitamin, birth defect, folic acid, neural tube defect, NTD, Pregnancy, spina bifida
Do I need folic acid?
Yes! Every woman needs to get enough folic acid each day, even if she does not plan to become pregnant. This is because our bodies make new cells every day—blood, skin, hair, nails and others. Folic acid is needed to make these new cells. Start a healthy habit today and get 400 mcg of folic acid every day.
Why can’t I wait until I’m pregnant to start taking folic acid?
Birth defects of the brain and spine (anencephaly and spina bifida) happen in the first few weeks of pregnancy, often before a woman finds out she’s pregnant. Also, half of all pregnancies in the United States are unplanned. These are two reasons why it is important for all women who can get pregnant to be sure to get 400 mcg of folic acid every day, even if they aren’t planning a pregnancy any time soon. By the time a woman realizes she’s pregnant, it might be too late to prevent these birth defects. Starting today is the best option!
How do I get folic acid?
An easy way to be sure you’re getting enough folic acid is to take a daily multivitamin with folic acid in it. Most multivitamins have all the folic acid you need. If you get an upset stomach from taking a multivitamin, try taking it with meals or just before bed. If you have trouble taking pills, you can try a multivitamin that is gummy or chewable. Also be sure to take it with a full glass of water.
Folic acid has been added to foods such as enriched breads, pastas, rice and cereals. Check the Nutrition Facts label on the food packaging. A serving of some cereals has 100% of the folic acid that you need each day.
In addition to getting 400 mcg of folic acid from supplements and fortified foods, you can eat a diet rich in folate. You can get food folate from beans, peas and lentils, oranges and orange juice, asparagus and broccoli, and dark leafy green vegetables such as spinach, and mustard greens.
For More Information
CDC’s Folic Acid HomepageBirth Defects COUNT
Spina Bifida Overview
Tags: anencephaly, B vitamin, birth defect, folic acid, neural tube defect, NTD, Pregnancy, spina bifida
Wednesday, January 15, 2014
Snowsuits and seat belts
The temperature has dropped, snow is
falling and we have bundled up the kids in winter wear making them look like
the Pillsbury Dough Boy. That’s great for keeping them toasty while running
around outside, but it’s often not so safe when traveling in a car.
A bulky coat under a child seat harness can result in the harness being too loose to be effective in a crash. A too loose harness may lead to injury from severe jarring or even being tossed from the car during an accident.
A bulky coat under a child seat harness can result in the harness being too loose to be effective in a crash. A too loose harness may lead to injury from severe jarring or even being tossed from the car during an accident.
Consumer Reports offers this
simple way to check if your child’s coat is too big
to wear under their harness, as well as what you can do test if it’s
too big:
• Put the coat on your child, sit them in the child seat and fasten the harness. Tighten the harness until you can no longer pinch any of the harness webbing with your thumb and forefinger.
• Without loosening the
harness, remove your child from the child seat,• Put the coat on your child, sit them in the child seat and fasten the harness. Tighten the harness until you can no longer pinch any of the harness webbing with your thumb and forefinger.
• Take the coat off, and put
your child back in the child seat and buckle the harness straps, which are
still adjusted as they were when he was wearing the coat.
• If you can now pinch the
webbing between your thumb and forefinger, then the coat is too bulky to be
worn under the harness.
So, preheat your car, take your
child’s coat off and buckle him snuggly into his harness. You can then use his
coat as a blanket, or tuck a baby blanket around him. He’ll be warm and
you’ll know that he’s good and safe.
Tags: Baby,
car safety, child safety, keeping warm, seat belts, snowsuit
Monday, January 13, 2014
Midwifery - What does a midwife do?
A certified nurse-midwife is a
registered nurse with advanced, specialized training and experience in taking
care of pregnant women and delivering babies. Certified nurse-midwives are
licensed to provide care before, during and after delivery.
There are several different types of midwives, each
holding different certifications based on their education and/or experience.
Certified nurse-midwives (CNMs) and certified midwives (CMs) attend
approximately 93% of all midwife-attended births in the United States, and as
of 2010 they are required to have a master’s degree in order to practice
midwifery.
Midwifery care fits well with the
services provided by obstetrician/gynecologists (OB/GYNs), who are experts in
high risk, medical complications and surgery. By working with OB/GYNs, midwives
can ensure that a specialist is available if a high-risk condition should arise
during pregnancy or labor and delivery.
Once your baby is here, a midwife
can assist with questions about breastfeeding (it’s not as easy as you think.)
Midwives can provide you with health care in the postpartum
period and between pregnancies at well woman visits. They can
provide pain medications, birth control, screenings and vaccinations. They
treat women from the teen years through menopause.
Here is a link to more information about midwives from the American College of Nurse
Midwives.
Tags: childbirth, labor and delivery, midwife, midwifery, postpartum, Pregnancy, women's health
Source: NewsMomsNeedat marchofimes.com
Source: NewsMomsNeedat marchofimes.com
Friday, January 10, 2014
Adjusting to life after the holidays
Welcome back to the Delays and
Disabilities series. I hope that you had a wonderful holiday season.
It seems like yesterday I was
blogging about how to cope with all the extra excitement and stress
that often accompanies the holidays. I hope that some of the tips helped
you and your child with special needs to enjoy the season.
Two steps forward, one step back
Depending on how your past few weeks
went, you may find that establishing your new “old routine” is especially
challenging. You may wonder why things that your little one used to do so well,
has now become a struggle, or has even been totally forgotten. Routines and
accomplishments once mastered have somehow disappeared. It may seem like you
have taken a step backward.
The “two steps forward and one step
back” pattern is a common one among children with special needs. Often, it
doesn’t take a lot to throw our kids off kilter. But, if you know that this is
common, when it happens you won’t feel too thrown off by it. All of the past
excitement of the holidays was difficult for your little one – and now,
re-adjusting to life is…well…difficult, too. Just try to keep your cool
and patiently bring your child along the path again, step by step, until old
routines and behaviors are mastered, once again. As usual, praise and positive
reinforcement help so much.
If you have any concerns, speak with
your child’s health care provider. It is always important to rule out possible
reasons for unusual behavior (such as ear infections or other illnesses) before
soldiering on.
Also, re-read my blog post on Re-entry – life after vacation. It includes tips
on how to master going back to your new “old” routine.
Look for possible positives
My daughter used to have a surge in
her speech vocabulary after a trip or holiday. Her speech therapist used to
love it when we went away or had a break in routine. Although the change in
routine was always hard on my daughter (and me) at the time, the after-effects
would result in new connections for my daughter. And, although re-adjusting to
her old routine was indeed a challenge again, the benefits from her language
boost were well worth it. So, keep an eye out for possible positive gains –
they may appear when you least expect them!
Bottom line
Just remember, it’s a new year, with
all new hopes for a wonderful future. Try to take it one moment at a
time. Baby steps.
Note: This post is part of the weekly series Delays
and disabilities – how to get help for your child. It was started in
January 2013 and appears every Wednesday. Go to News Moms Need and click
on “Help for your child” on the menu on the right
side to view the archive of past blog posts. As always, we welcome your
comments and input.
Have questions? Send them to AskUs@marchofdimes.com.
Tags: Baby,
birth defect, child,
delays, disabilities, early intervention, parenting, re-entry, routines, Special needs
Wednesday, January 8, 2014
My 2014 Resolution: Tell them the REAL number
I knew the question was coming. I struck up a conversation with a woman at
Target the other day. She had three
adorable girls with her. We discussed
everything about motherhood and kids and then she asked the dreaded question, “How
many kids do you have?”
I am the mother of three amazing boys, two living and one in
Heaven, our guardian angel. Though my
youngest was with us for only a few days, he was and is a huge part of our
family. But how does that translate to a
random stranger who innocently asks you that question?
My answer changes with each conversation. Sometimes I say two boys, sometimes I say
three but stop at that, and sometimes I do go into a little more detail about
our sweet little boy. I feel guilty for
not including all of our boys, I feel guilty for telling people I have three
boys, leading them to believe I have three boys here with me, and I feel guilty
if I tell them the truth and then see that awkward foot in their mouth look
they give me. Guilt, guilt, guilt.
That was 2013. This is 2014: I’m done with the guilt. Time after time, I’ve talked to women and men
who have the same inner struggles; people who have lost babies through
miscarriage, prematurity, sickness, or unforeseeable causes and couples who battle
infertility, and long to see that plus sign on the pregnancy test. Why do we feel so much unspoken pressure to silently
put these experiences behind us and move on with a smile as if nothing
happened?
We live in a society that openly discusses and embraces the
amazing efforts to raise awareness
around causes such as breast cancer, multiple sclerosis and heart
disease, just to name a few. But why is
something like the loss of a baby still such a taboo subject?
Miscarriage happens to more women than breast cancer. Odds are, if not you, than someone you know
has suffered from a miscarriage. These
women and their partners struggle silently, feeling guilty that they feel so sad,
knowing it was still early. Often people tell me they feel bad talking about their
struggles in front of me because my baby was born and lived days before he
passed away. That is so heartbreaking to me.
A baby is a baby, no matter how long they are with us. As soon as parents see the positive test, or hear
the first heartbeat, that baby becomes part of their family. It’s not fair for them to cry alone late at
night or fall into depression without feeling like they can or should talk
about it.
No matter how it happens, losing a baby or trying for years
to conceive, has become a daily and even hourly occurrence. Yet we still don’t
talk about it. This is why, in 2014, I
pledge to share my story as often as I can, to reach out to as many women that
I can who have gone through these heartbreaking experiences and tell them they
have a support group in me. I realize
everyone is different, everyone grieves differently and if you’re not up for
sharing your story that’s okay. But I
hope by sharing my story we can start a conversation, and get rid of the taboo. Lets talk, people! For those of you reading who are lucky enough
never to have experienced this, you can help by spreading the word. Encourage people to give their REAL number
and be proud of it. Talk about it with
your family, coworkers, your friends, anyone.
Just talk. Women and men everywhere will thank you.
by Sara Raak
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